How to Forgive With God’s Help (1)
Learning how to forgive others is one of the most unnatural duties in the Christian life. We would rather do anything else to make up or cover up than actually doing
You see forgiveness is not a fruit of the spirit and no one is born or endowed with the gift of forgiveness, forgiveness is a conscious deliberate decision to let go. You can pray for God’s help but the decision to actually forgive is yours to make. It isn’t easy I must admit and it can be hard but the result outweigh our reluctant in the end.
It goes against our human nature. Forgiving is a supernatural act that Jesus Christ was capable of, but when we are hurt by someone, we want to hold a grudge. We want justice. Sadly, we don’t trust God with that because we are hurt and reason that God is too slow so we want justice now and we get that by either planning revenge or lash out in return according to Moses law which is a tooth for a tooth and an eye for an eye
There is a secret to successfully living the Christian life though, however same secret applies when we’re struggling any of our human failings and also with how to forgive.
How to Forgive: Understanding Our Worth
The first step in forgiving is acknowledging and accepting our worth. The truth is that we are all wounded and inadequate. On our best days our self-esteem hovers somewhere between feeble and fragile. All it takes is disapproval from someone we care about—or perceived disapproval—to send us staggering out of our wits. These attacks bother us because we forget who we really are.
As believers, you and I are forgiven children of God. We have been lovingly adopted into his royal family as his sons and daughters. It is easy to claim to be forgiven Christians and not having the ability to forgive. We may say it with our mouth but deep down in our heart a seed of resentment and suspicion is sown. Our true worth comes from our relationship to him, not from our appearance, our performance or our net worth.
When we remember that truth, criticism bounces off us like pebbles thrown at rock. However the trouble is that we often forget this
We seek others’ approval, when they reject us instead, it hurts. By taking our eyes off God and his acceptance and putting them on the conditional acceptance of our boss, spouse, or friend, we set ourselves up to be hurt.
When you begin to walk in the knowledge and consciousness of our worth in Christ which is not tied to anything but the blood of Jesus then you are on the way to living a non judgmental, approval seeking life. We should always have it at the back at the back of our mind and forget that other people are incapable of unconditional love not matter the level of their spirituality or status.
Forgiveness is a commandment not a suggestion
PS: The topic of this post was rather a very long one so I decide to split it into three part for easy grasp
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