Hi friends, how has been your week so far.
It’s been raining on this part of the planet for a few days non stop. In as much as I love it when it rained, I don’t fancy the drizzling type, you know those that will keep drizzling throughout the day and gets your plan ruined for the day as you arent sure or when it will stop
I wrote a blog BLOG POST sometimes ago where, I promised to gist you guys about the tidbits of my time when I was absent from blogging
I am going to share with you guys today how a date got wrong. I have particularly not being the dating type, in fact i would say i have dated only one all my life and that couldnt be counted as a date because in my estimation – any date less than 2 months isn ‘t something that gets recorded in hardisk of my memory.
No,I am not the picky type but then right from my teenage years when i go(t slapped for even daring to express my love to a secondary school classmate in a letter (mobile phones werent as rampant as it is now and only the extremely wealthy has it). D’ont get me wrong, i have actually gets over it but then it led me to a paradigm shift to slow down the teenage adraline rush anf focus on finding a wife instead of caving in to teenage rave of having a girlfriend.
So here is this lady friend of mine, i have actually admire her from a distant. Anyway we got talking and then i want more, this was passive though. However after many months of not even thinking along that line as she once told me she had someone she is dating, i simply quit the desiere of wanting more.
But suddenly i started having dreams about this lady and honestly like said i wasn’t even thinking of her at this point. You know it is possible to dream of or about someone you are really thinking alot about. I had this dream about het 3 times, the first time i waved it off as one of those silly dreams, second one i was proposing marriage to her and the third dream i saw myself getting married to her. I was confused because i wasnt even thinking along that line at all. I prayed about it and i had this inner peace about the whole thing.
After some weeks, i discussed about it with some mature christian who encourage me to go speak to her at least. I told them I had spoken to her about 8 months back, her response was negative. They still encourage me to speak with her.
Since she was far away in the east at that point in time , I put a call through and relay my manifesto. She asked for a few weeks to clarify some things. Well, I thought “thats the nornal procedure for ladies any way”
Some weeks later, she called which i missed. I then returned the call few days later and her response was ” I am sorry , I dont think i want to be involved in any relationship for now”. Which to me according to feminine language means ” I would love to be in a relationship but not with you”. I thank her for being honest, exchange some pleaseantrites and get off the line.
I felt hurt and at the same time still had this inner peace.. I began throwing some emotional tantrums. I was reflecting on the incident of the day after having supper when this still small voice whisper in my ear
” You were refused because you are not ready”.
Whaaattt??!! That voice is unmistakable , it is that of the HolySpirit
I couldn’t grasp the essence, depth and meaning of the statement until much more later as I meditate. Is He saying I am not financially, emotionally ready? I have read a copious amount of books on dating, courting and marriage and felt I have a good perspective of how this things work
I then repented on my childish emotional tantrums and decides to ask what HE meant by the statement “You are not ready”
He asked me “I don’t offer financial assistant to someone without a concrete business proposal and plan?”
I didnt understand how business and financial assistance has to do with relationship at that moment
He then asked me “Do you have a courtship and marriage blueprint?”
I havent come across this from many of the books and blog I have read on relationahip and marriage
I couldn’t gather enough vocal strenght to ask the HS if she is the one or not
Isnt It funny how we react to issues especially relationshipwise. Some times we are not truly prepared for what we prayed about. This is why as christians, we oughf to be patient enough to get Hraven’s perspective on every issues in our lives.
I felt whatever He said tobme is applicable to both gender. Are we truly ready for God’s promises. If God is preparing a place for us, we ought to be prepared for the place
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